There is no need to continue reliving the hurts and frustrations of your past over and over again. Heartaches may continue to weigh heavy on our spirits as we hang on to the pain, bitterness and disappointment of past hurts. However, please understand that you are not destined to a life of unending burden and conflict. You are destined to live a FULL and complete life complete with what you REALLY want!
All of us need to learn how to let go of past failures and hurts – we must not allow these experiences to have power over us and to continue eating us inside and stop us “dead in our tracks” from moving forward and conquering newer challenges. Doing so only keeps us in a “funky” mood, affects our attitude, our relationships, our behaviour on our jobs, and just about every area of our life. Now who wants to be around a crabby, pessimistic and negative soul?
While we may not always have the days we want, we always have the opportunity to attract the things in which we do.
Here are five simple yet essential steps that will move you closer to emotional freedom and a fuller life:
1. Talk about what’s eating away at you. A close family member or a trusted friend will always be ready to listen to your pains, fears or frustrations. Oftentimes, we only really need to let it out COMPLETELY– so cry, shout, walk, run on the treadmill, scream and wail your heart out. Releasing those bottled up emotions is healthy as long as you don’t hurt anyone, and a person that understands the value of releasing the negative energy so that you can move through it will still like you afterwards. They will understand that you wanting to “fork people up” is only a symptom of the negative energy that you have managed to accumulate inside and that when it’s all over, you will be back to yourself again. And until you release all these negative feelings from your mind, body and spirit, you really can’t move on.
2. Keep a journal. Writing is definitely a good outlet to release those bottled up emotions. It continues to be very therapeutic to me. A journal is yours, it is not something that you will be graded on or that you intend for anyone to read; writing in the journal allows you to speak your heart and mind without concern for how your words may affect others. Write from the heart and don’t concern yourself with logic, grammar or spelling rules. The important thing is to express exactly what you feel. You’ll be amazed at the relief it will give you once you’ve found the words to express your pains and frustrations. If you need to write as though you are speaking directly to the person…then get busy. The sooner you get it out, the better.
3. Ask for forgiveness and forgive those who caused you the pain. This doesn’t have to be an actual conversation but more of a symbolic spiritual nature if addressing that person directly is not a possibility or would cause more harm than good. Bear in mind that forgiveness is a decision, so you need not wait till the pain goes away for you to do so. Recall your spirit from the negative thoughts, guilt and shame that you may feel for whatever reason. Find closure within your heart and soul and stop letting those painful memories control you.
4. Seek guidance from someone with a caring heart; a person that is able to see you for who you really are without judgement. Please know that people in your immediate circle are not always the best choice to help you work through your healing. They can be subjective and too sympathetic, or you may find it difficult to open up unabatedly, so it is best that you get help from a life coach or therapist. There is relative anonymity when you work with a life coach that has lived through the experiences that you are going through and can speak to you from a place of having been there before. That person can help you push you out of your “pity party” or comfort zone and seek new perspectives that will move you forward.
5. Explore alternative remedies. There are a lot of therapies proven to work in changing unfavourable attitudes and adverse mindsets. The EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique for example, replicates the benefits of acupuncture without the needles to help you take control of your emotions. When you harbour negative feelings, this causes energy blockages in your entire system which inhibits their release and causes you to slow down. We know this as depression. With EFT, you will be trained to tap your fingertips on sensitive meridian points in the upper body as you verbally express feelings. The tapping sequence breaks the blocks caused by negative emotions, allowing you to finally release them and feel more energized.
Free yourself from the unnecessary and oftentimes, “perceived shame” from bondage of your past. You can let go and live on. Take the first step and talk it out with a life coach or therapist. He or she can work out a combined healing method with you so you can finally move on to a life of truly deserve. There are plenty of healing practices for you to add to your tool chest… won’t you invest in your healing today?
